How to plan the best, first date

A First Date

The perfect date.  What is it and how do you know if you planned it correctly?

The first thing you need to do is KNOW who you are taking out on a date.  This may be easy but often times it is the first date you get to "know" the "exterior" of a person.  Ask yourself these questions:

1. Does your date like the outdoors vs. indoors?
2. Does your date like to talk?  I know this seems like an odd question because how do you get to know someone unless you talk, right?  Not so easy.
3. Does your date extroverted or introverted?  Extroverted is a person who is outgoing, friendly, generally likes a crowd where introverted people tend to be quiet and not be the center of attention.

Outdoors vs. Indoor dates:  If your date likes to rock climb, jog, play sports it is a good idea to take him/her on a date that they are comfortable doing....unless you are clearly the opposite.  You don't have to go ski diving but you will want to plan a date that is outside or active.  If they are athletic there is usually a basketball court in a park that you can join a game of pick up or just play one on one.  If your date prefers the indoors dinner and a movie is a great choice. 

Before you decide what you are doing ask yourself question #2:  Are they comfortable talking?  I have a hard time understanding "not talking" but there are some out there that are shy.  If your date is on the shy part don't put them on a date where a lot of talking is required....here the movie or a concert would be perfect.  If they like to talk going to dinner and a walk afterwards allows for the comfort of no crowds but the ability to have a conversation.

Extroverted vs. Introverted:  Should be simple right?  Extroverted goes to a Karaoke bar Introverted goes to a movie.  This is not always so simple as an extroverted person may be out-going around their comfort zone but introverted with a karaoke mike thrown in their face. 

If you know their friends....ASK!  If you don't know their friends, ask your date.  The best first date would be a date that is comfortable for both.  Ask him/her what they would like to do.  The usual response is "whatever is fine."  This is not the answer you accept.  This is a great time to get creative:  When you show up have three options and let them choose which one they would like. 

No matter what you do, no matter where you go ALWAYS be yourself NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LIKE THAT PERSON.  If you are yourself and you don't "click" on that first date you have not lost anything and you have gained a potential friend.  When you pretend to like "stuff" you don't really like it will eventually come out and it will happen at the worst time so be true to yourself.  One word of caution:  Never get drunk or drink "a bit too much."  You are responsible for their safety and fun.

The first date does not need to be romantic, expensive or outrageous....it just need to be.

I would love to hear from you about what your perfect date would be and what your best date has been. 

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